“I used to be fun.”  There’s probably not a soul who hasn’t thought this for at least a moment in his or her life.  We all experience moments when we feel like the dullest of souls in a duller than dull life.  Hopefully, that’s a temporary feeling, easily replaced by the urge to do something that makes you smile.

I can’t define “fun” because it’s different for every one of us.  Some like thrill seeking adventures, some like quiet moments with friends.  There are activities like sports, board games, movies, books, nature walks, travel, gardening, playing cards, visiting museums, attending plays and concerts, having coffee with friends, dining out, crafts, riding bikes and motorcycles, and more things than I can imagine.  Even our work can be fun.

The idea that “I” am fun is a little different when you think about it.  I think a fun person is someone who is open to life, open to the new experiences we find every day in the people and ideas and places we encounter.  A fun person makes everything fun for others by making them feel loved, liked, appreciated, a part of the activities.  We can certainly not be fun.  We can choose to be Debby Downer.  We can make everyone around us miserable by our sour mood.  This isn’t to say we don’t have our dark days when we face the life events that break our hearts or change our lives, but we don’t have to let those define us.

My theory is that the first thing you can do to be fun or have fun is smile.  Once you’re smiling, you’re on your way to having something fun happen to you and around you.

Have a fun day!